Why did you throw the Jack of Hearts away?

I need a brand new friend who doesn't bother me
I need a brand new friend who doesn't trouble me
I need someone, yeah, who doesn't need me...
Hopefully Jimi Baba found that friend...but today the word "friend" has taken up a whole new meaning, one which I don't believe I have ever heard of it, let alone understand. You are a friend if you can listen and not speak back; you are a friend if you can understand but not be understood; you are a friend if you are there for someone who is never there for you; you are a friend if you can take but never give; you are a friend if you can say exactly what you are expected to say and not what you feel is important to be said; you are a friend if all your time, energy and love is devoted to only one individual (who is not even your partner or soulmate or someone to that effect! you know what I mean?!); you are a friend if you are rich; you are a friend if you are famous; you are a friend for all the wrong reasons, but only with these reasons are you a "FRIEND". And if you don't fit into atleast one of these categories, then my "friend", you have no friend but yourself.

Naming every relationship is as simple as it gets, but all these relationships I have been told, are like sand held in your fist. You have but two choices in which to hold it. Either you hold it loosely so it can stay in your palm, secure and with you forever. Or you can tighten your fist, and watch it slip through your fingers, away from you. Whatever you do, one thing is for sure, "relationships" of any kind are not meant to be KEPT! The moment you begin to KEEP them, tightening that fist, they will slip away. Whatever happened to growing together? We all seem to want one thing the most in our lives. To be loved. And the moment you have atleast one person who does give you the comforting feeling that love is primarily made up of, you tend to cling on to it. This clinging is nothing but your Desire of being loved, fulfilled, which in turn leads to a constant need for the same.

In the name of friendship, we have all sorts of relationships, all very man-made. You give names in the form of words to these various relationships, but at the end of it all, you know that they are all made by you; you have given meaning to them and you have every right to take them away from one person and move them on to another. This is what has led to you believe that these relationships are all there is to life. And you're clinging way too tight for fear of losing them.

The highest connection, not relationship, is that of the Purush (male) and Prakruti (nature, thus female), of Man and the Divine Cosmos, of Shiva and Shakti. This is the ultimate reality that stands before us. This is what we are here for, to understand our purpose and serve it well. And eventually transcend from one life to the other without leaving behind anything undone. In this Kaliyuga, (the Dark Age), reality is made up of the unreal. As strange as it this may sound, you know exctly what I'm talking about.Your real challenge lies in striking a balance between your Spiritual Self and Material Self. And both have been given to you for a very good reason. What you might learn by the end of it is that there is no reason and there is no need for one.

It is no sin to be materialistic as long as you can let go with ease. The moment you know you are getting lured by Maya, unable to control your urges in the material sense, it is a sign for you to move on, get going, searching your centre point, and begin nurturing yourself from within. This Maya can even come in the form of life. Women sinces ages have been considered as a crucial tool of Maya to lure men into their spells and lose out on reality. But this is not true, it can't ever be. For the woman is at par with the man, and only together can they unite with Divine Cosmos. The Sattva, Tamas and Rajas is the trinity in each of us. It is for us to over come the the latter two to reach a state of bliss and purity. Once your healing process begins, with the soul seeking, you will feel the difference and life won't seem like a novel with the end ripped out ;)

Since everything is relative, you might not agree with this, but we all have dark spaces in our minds, waiting for some light to come in, although it takes some a lifetime or even more to realise this. My 6 can be your 9. As long as you choose the path less travelled, you will be just fine.

Coming back to needing a brand new friend, we don't need one and never will...